noun | hi·a·tus | \hī-ˈā-təs\ – 1. a break or interruption in the continuity of a work, series, action, etc. 2. a missing part; gap or lacuna. I thought it was just an argument. All relationships have them: some big and some small, some brief and others passionately long-winded. We fight, we make up, we move on and grow stronger together—that is the way things are supposed to go. These were just bad times, we’d work through them and get back to making more good times. Did you know that it’s possible to be too selfless, too giving? It is. And when you’re giving up what you want for a prolonged period of time the stress that builds can lead to some very bad drama. Arguments ensued. Mean things were said. The kind of things that cut to the core and place the last twenty years in doubt. We were both sacrificing too much. And we were both sacrificing it in that void of isolation all too often created when conflicting work schedules meet poor communication. I don’t want to be needed. That implies you’re only here because you have to be, because you’re forced. I want you to be here because you choose to be here; because you want it…or not at all. Constantly giving to a relationship—be it from a sense of obligation or a need to feel needed—will only serve to make both people involved feel trapped. It is neither healthy, nor sustainable. To be in it for the long term requires a foundation of desire and trust; the willingness to both give and take; and presence of mind know when to help, listen, or let alone…sometimes when the other person doesn’t know which one they want. So it was time to re-evaluate what we’re doing; rediscover, review, and revise our goals; and most importantly execute on the steps required to achieve those goals. Solo or together. Whether we’re busy or not. Between that and a pile of other personal and work-related deadlines all piling up in the same month, it was prudent to take a step back from the (often overwhelming) commitment to publish new content and focus on our own needs…and wants. The irony of the situation is that, yes, during our two month hiatus we managed to write, shoot, sketch, and design more content than in the rest of the year to date. The difference is we did it knowing… Hiatus
Even bad advice can be valuable – “You need to stop spending time in the mountains, and focus on building a career. You will never earn a living with that off-road stuff.” I was in my late twenties when I received that nugget of wisdom, from none other than my father. On the surface it’s not all that impractical; but pragmatism should be applied to strategy, not the dream itself. Hundreds of thousands of miles, thousands of photographs, hundreds of articles, dozens of adventure-industry clients, and five years as a designer/author at a certain premium publication later it’s clear I took that advice to heart…just not as he intended. The doubters and “haters” in this world love to share their unsolicited advice, masked as the gift of some rare gem that might spare you from a life of poverty. More often than not, hidden beneath that mask is a bitter envy and a desire to keep you stuck at their level. Harness all that negative energy and use it as motivation to make shit happen. Turn your dreams into goals, and lay out a plan to make them a reality. Everyone that is successful today was dumb enough to try yesterday.… Unsolicited